In recent years, an increasing number of gay couples are embracing parenthood through surrogacy and egg donation combined with In Vitro Fertilization (IVF). While the process might appear complex, an experienced clinic and agency can guide you smoothly through each step.
Key Components of the IVF Experience
The IVF journey for same-sex couples generally involves three essential components:
- Gestational Surrogacy: A surrogate carries your baby but has no genetic ties to the child.
- Egg Donation: To create embryos, your clinic will fertilize donor eggs with your sperm, which will then be transferred into the surrogate’s uterus during a frozen embryo transfer (FET). Using fresh eggs is highly recommended for a better chance of success.
- In Vitro Fertilization (IVF): This encompasses the egg retrieval, embryo creation, and transfer processes. Additional monitoring, fertility meds, blood tests, and ultrasounds are also part of the IVF cycle.
Let’s dive into what same-sex male couples can expect on their journey to parenthood.
Step 1: Initial Consultation
At your first appointment, you will meet with a reproductive endocrinologist to discuss your goals and options. A dedicated team member, who has personal experience with egg donation and surrogacy, will also explain the process and associated costs. Since you will need both a surrogate and an egg donor, this meeting will cover the details of gestational surrogacy, introduce you to our partnered agency, and help you strategize on selecting your egg donor and surrogate. The consultation also outlines our Peace of Mind program, designed to shield you from unexpected expenses.
Step 2: Selecting Your Egg Donor and Surrogate
Most intended parents opt for an anonymous egg donor, though a known donor is also an option. We will assist you in finding the right match while ensuring all legal and logistical aspects are considered. Exploring various reputable egg donor databases is encouraged since the donor contributes half of your child’s DNA.
Choosing an egg donor and surrogate through a trustworthy agency enhances the chances of a successful cycle due to thorough medical and psychological screenings. Our detailed matching process means that most intended parents find their ideal surrogate match quickly, thanks to our upfront screening efforts.
When selecting a surrogate, consider how involved you want to be in her life during and after the pregnancy. Some couples prefer to keep in touch; others may want a more defined separation following delivery. These discussions are crucial before finalizing your surrogate choice.
Step 3: Creating Embryos
After selecting your egg donor, the egg donation cycle kicks off, and you’ll be able to create embryos in about 30 days! Interestingly, you don’t have to pick just one of you as the biological father; split fertilization is an option, allowing embryos to be fertilized with sperm from both partners.
Step 4: Frozen Embryo Transfer
Your surrogate will prepare for a frozen embryo transfer around her menstrual cycle, using fertility medications to optimize her readiness. The frozen embryos can be stored indefinitely until she is prepared for transfer.
Step 5: Monitoring and Pregnancy
With thorough medical screenings already performed, gestational surrogacy is one of the most effective fertility treatments. Your surrogate will attend regular check-ups at your IVF clinic during the first trimester. Afterward, she will transition to her OB/GYN for ongoing prenatal care. Determine how you’d like to interact with your surrogate throughout the pregnancy, as many intended parents develop strong relationships with their carriers during this emotional journey.
It’s crucial to select an IVF plan that covers potential setbacks such as miscarriages or failed transfers. Our Unlimited Peace of Mind Plan can help manage both medical and non-medical expenses that might arise during the process.
Step 6: Birth and Postpartum
Upon your surrogate’s delivery, legal agreements will ensure you are recognized as the child’s legal parents. It’s an exciting and transformative experience, filled with anticipation and joy.
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Summary
The IVF process for gay couples involves a series of structured steps, including consultations, selecting an egg donor and surrogate, creating embryos, and ensuring a smooth transfer. With the right support, the journey to parenthood can be both fulfilling and rewarding.