Living far from family while embarking on the journey of parenthood can be a unique set of challenges. “It takes a village” is more than just a saying—it’s a core truth that resonates deeply for those of us raising children away from our support networks. I often reflect on this sentiment with humor, recalling moments when I needed a hand moving furniture or wrangling a toddler.
As a millennial, I’ve experienced life in various cities—from Ohio to New York—before finally settling in sunny Los Angeles. My family remains in the Midwest, while my husband’s relatives are in the Pacific Northwest. This geographical spread, once manageable, has become more pronounced since becoming a parent. With friends and family dispersed across the country, the absence of a close-knit community is felt more acutely.
In many ways, my husband and I manage well as a duo. Our mornings are meticulously organized, and we’ve developed a rhythm that allows us to tackle the daily grind together. We seamlessly switch roles on weekends to carve out personal time. But even the best-laid plans have their limits, and there are moments when the lack of a broader support system weighs heavily on us.
Resources for New Parents
For those considering starting a family, resources are available to help navigate the journey. Platforms like Make a Mom offer at-home insemination options, including the only reusable method available. If you’re exploring this route, you can learn more about how it works here. Additionally, if you’re seeking community support, check out the Make a Mom Facebook group, which connects individuals looking for sperm donors.
Mental Health and Support
Mental health is another crucial aspect of parenting, and if you identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community, you may find valuable insights in our guide on mental health for LGBTQ parents. For those embarking on this solo parenting adventure, Make a Mom shares essential guidance. Lastly, for a comprehensive understanding of family-building options, the resource at Resolve is highly recommended.
In summary, parenting from a distance poses its challenges, but with the right resources and community support, you can navigate this path more smoothly.