Deciding whether to meet your donor can be a significant choice for couples. For some, it’s a straightforward decision; for others, it may require a bit more thought. There’s no right or wrong answer when it comes to this question. Some recipients worry that meeting the donor might mean losing their anonymity or creating an ongoing relationship. While it’s true that the donor may recognize you in public, no personal details like last names or addresses are shared. During each meeting, we discuss how to handle any unexpected encounters. Importantly, there’s absolutely no expectation of a continued relationship with the donor!
Many couples find fulfillment without ever meeting the donor; for them, that’s the best path. However, if you’re considering a meeting, here are some compelling reasons to move forward:
- You’ll gain assurance that your donor is just as wonderful as you imagined;
- It confirms that the donor understands that YOU are the parents;
- You’ll have the chance to ask questions that weren’t covered in her bio, like what kind of baby she was or what her family members are like;
- It’s a perfect moment to express your gratitude in person;
- You can capture a moment with a photo of you and the donor;
- You can discuss the donor’s feelings about your child reaching out to her in the future;
- You’ll be able to share with your child that you met the donor.
In our experience, donors truly enjoy these meetings. It personalizes the experience for them, transforming them from a faceless figure into someone who is actively contributing to your family’s story. Whether the meetings are enlightening, a bit awkward, or even funny, they always leave a lasting impression.
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In summary, choosing to meet your donor can enrich the journey of creating your family, offering clarity and connection that might be invaluable for you and your future child.