Black women face a staggering reality: they are over three times more likely to die from pregnancy-related causes than their White counterparts. Despite decades of reports highlighting these disparities, little has been done to change the situation. In recognition of Black Maternal Health Week, we caught up with Sarah Thompson, a doula, who shared her journey through pregnancy as a Black woman and her motivation to support others. TW: Miscarriage
On the Lack of Support
My path to becoming a doula was shaped by my own pregnancy experiences. After going through a miscarriage, I felt a profound lack of support during an incredibly painful moment—something all women need when facing such heartache. This absence of care drove me to pursue this calling.
The loneliness and shame I felt were overwhelming. I had always maintained good physical health, yet the miscarriage revealed my mental struggles. How does one cope with something they’ve never faced before? I had thought I was doing everything right—exercising, tracking my cycle, taking vitamins, and eating well—yet, I felt crushed. My sense of identity was shattered, and I yearned to talk about my experience but felt rejected and pressured to put on a brave face. I was expected to heal more quickly than I could process the pain. Now, I am grateful for the resilience I have developed.
‘It Happens to So Many, So You Are Not Special’
These unspoken words echoed in my mind. I silenced myself, fearing embarrassment and feeling guilty for my perceived failure. I found myself downplaying my experience, brushing it off as if it didn’t matter—but it did. I learned to be kinder to myself, although it was a challenge.
On Finding Peace
After ten months, I finally found a measure of peace. Through this journey, I began my doula training, driven by a desire to help others on their paths to healing. I sought solace in the experiences of others who had faced similar losses. I discovered strength in vulnerability and community. I told myself a new story—one where I was not at fault.
On Becoming a Doula
Becoming a doula transformed my life. I now view my trauma as something to honor instead of hide. My training has allowed me to discover my true purpose and to offer support to those in need. I am here to provide comfort and strength to anyone going through difficult times. Ironically, while my trauma initially closed me off, my training has opened me up. I have gained insight into the healthcare system and the pain that many face, and I want to deepen my understanding of how to be a pillar of support.
As a proud Black woman, I am passionate about helping others nurture their well-being. I feel a strong commitment to support Black women, who often face neglect due to systemic racism in healthcare. Although confronting these truths can be uncomfortable, it is essential for addressing the issues that I and many others face. If you’re interested in learning more about pregnancy and home insemination, check out this excellent resource here. For those seeking an at-home solution, our friends at Make a Mom offer great options. And if you’re looking for a cozy recipe to warm your heart, don’t miss our blog post on Turkey Tortilla Soup.
In summary, Maria’s journey emphasizes the critical need for support in the face of maternal health disparities. Her evolution from trauma to strength as a doula highlights the importance of community and compassion in navigating these challenges.