“I will always work full-time! I’ll never stay at home with kids!”
I was adamant about that before becoming a parent. Fast forward to now, and I find myself reflecting on how my perspective has dramatically changed.
Recently, my partner and I made the significant decision for me to leave my job after the arrival of our second child, due at the end of December. This choice wasn’t made lightly; it involved extensive discussion and planning to see how we could manage on a single income, even with my occasional side jobs that provided some financial flexibility. The decision required sacrifices. We’ve eliminated cable television from our lives for over a year, we skip expensive gifts for each other, and we rarely dine out or catch a movie. Most of our purchases are pre-owned, and we are quite mindful about spending on new items. Surprisingly, these sacrifices feel more like adjustments that have enriched our family life than genuine losses.
When I returned to work after my first child, I was told it would become easier over time. However, the constant worry about my child, the heartache of missing his milestones, and the joy of watching him grow up became increasingly difficult to bear. As he grew older and began expressing his dissatisfaction with my long hours away, I found myself yearning to be home even more.
On my days off, it was evident that our family thrived together. Despite the challenges of parenthood—tantrums, messes, and sleep strikes—I realized I preferred even the toughest days with my child over the best day at work. The rewarding moments of reading, playing games, and teaching him were far more fulfilling than anything my job could offer. While I understand that many parents crave adult time away from their children, I didn’t feel the same need.
After six years of university and earning a master’s degree, I never envisioned myself in this position. I had always cherished my work in healthcare, particularly as a speech pathologist, where I found great satisfaction in helping clients improve their lives. Yet, the fulfillment of being present with my children has made me realize what I was missing during those long work hours.
I feel incredibly fortunate to have this opportunity to spend more time at home with my kids, thanks to the unwavering support of my partner. I have learned what works best for our family and embraced my role as a parent wholeheartedly.
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To Summarize:
Transitioning from a full-time career to becoming a stay-at-home mom was a profound shift for me. While it required sacrifices, the joy of being present for my children has made every adjustment worthwhile. I encourage others exploring parenthood to seek out support and resources to find the path that best suits their family.