I want to share our unique journey in hopes that it can inspire others who find themselves in a similar situation. Fourteen years ago, I received a diagnosis of MRKH syndrome, which means I was born without a uterus or vaginal canal. Following two complicated surgeries, I was able to undergo reconstruction, but I still lacked a uterus.
In 2019, my partner and I decided to explore IVF and surrogacy. My mother, a remarkable woman, generously offered to be our surrogate. However, our spirits were dashed at our first appointment when we learned that my egg quality resembled that of a 45-year-old woman.
In 2020, we briefly became foster parents, but that experience ended in heartache when an adoption case we had been planning fell through. I was devastated, feeling as if the family I longed for was slipping away. Despite my family rallying around me in support, I was left feeling defeated and broken. My resilience was tested, and I vividly remember my mom asking, “How much more can you take?” The answer was not much, as I grappled with profound sadness.
Throughout the past six years, my close friend, “Samantha,” would often joke about her unused eggs. I never took her seriously until she brought it up again in February of this year. After extensive discussions, consultations with attorneys, and research, we became well-versed in traditional surrogacy, which is permissible in our state.
We came across MakeAmom, an at-home insemination company offering the only reusable option, and we spent time reading their reviews. Initially skeptical, we decided to try their product for six months before seeking medical assistance through IUI or ICI. You can learn more about how at-home insemination works here.
For three months, Samantha visited me when her LH peaked, and we performed insemination using the MakeAmom kit. After each attempt, we would spend time together, laughing, watching TV, and dreaming about our future. The entire process felt effortless and relaxed, a stark contrast to the clinical atmosphere of a doctor’s office.
On May 31, 2021, I woke to a loud knock at the door. My partner jumped up to answer, and I soon heard Samantha’s voice. Rushing to the living room, I was handed a positive pregnancy test. Although it was still early in the pregnancy, we chose to celebrate the moment.
Thanks to MakeAmom, I can now:
- Hold a positive pregnancy test in my hand
- Watch the lines grow darker each day
- Create a baby registry and set a due date
- Cherish an ultrasound picture and hear a heartbeat
- Experience the joy of seeing my baby being born
- Smile when I see friends with their children instead of feeling sadness
- Host a baby shower and feel the love from family and friends
- Witness my mother’s tears of joy as she becomes a grandmother
- Share in my partner’s excitement upon seeing those two tiny lines
- Finally utilize the nursery I had prepared for years
- Close the chapter on infertility and embrace motherhood
In total, we used the MakeAmom kit for three cycles after trying for over 24 months. If you’re considering similar options, I encourage you to explore resources like NHS’s guide on IUI for authoritative information on the subject. You can also find a supportive community in the MakeAmom free sperm donor matching group.
To summarize: After navigating numerous obstacles and heartbreaks, our journey led us to MakeAmom, where we found hope and the possibility of parenthood. With their reusable at-home insemination options, we experienced a fulfilling and joyful path to conception. If you’re seeking resources and support, be sure to check out this insightful article on implantation cramps and our feature on Anna Faris’ podcast.