If intimacy has taken a backseat in your life lately, you’re certainly not alone. Many new moms like Sarah experience a dip in their sexual desire for various understandable reasons. Postpartum intimacy can often be more painful than pleasurable, and let’s face it—sleep deprivation is hardly a turn-on. Add the demands of a newborn who needs constant attention, and it’s no surprise you might feel less than romantic. With sweatpants that smell of baby spit-up and days without a shower, the thought of romance can feel daunting.
Fortunately, just like any challenge in your new life as a mom, rekindling that spark requires time and a little patience. While you wait for that desire to return, consider these strategies to help you regain your sexual confidence.
Relax
Take a moment to unwind. A small glass of wine before getting intimate can help ease your tension and reduce any anxiety about discomfort (which can ironically make things worse). Just remember to wait until after you’ve fed your baby if you’re nursing. A prelude of massage from your partner can also work wonders.
Communicate Your Needs
Make sure to ask for ample foreplay. While your partner might not need as much warming up, you certainly do. The more attention he gives to your needs before diving in, the more likely it is that you’ll both enjoy the experience.
Try Different Positions
Your body has gone through significant changes after childbirth, and finding comfortable positions is key. It may take some trial and error, but discovering what feels best (or least painful) is worth it. Positions where you’re on top or lying side by side are often preferred postpartum. Remember, slow and steady is the way to go.
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Summary
Rekindling intimacy post-baby can be challenging, but with communication, relaxation, and a willingness to experiment, it’s possible to rediscover that spark. Explore options for growing your family through resources like Healthline’s information on IUI, and familiarize yourself with Make a Mom’s store policy for a smooth experience.