Navigating the world of same-sex adoption can be complex, especially for LGBTQ families looking to expand their households. Since the landmark 2015 Obergefell v. Hodges ruling by the U.S. Supreme Court, which mandates recognition of same-sex marriage across all states, many legal barriers have been lifted, making adoption more accessible for LGBTQ couples. As Milan Carter, a legal expert at a North Carolina law firm, points out, “[Same-sex] adoption has become more available in many states due to the recognition of marriage between same-sex partners.”
Recent research by Family Equality, an advocacy organization for LGBTQ families, reveals that 63% of LGBTQ millennials aspire to grow their families, with 40% considering adoption or fostering. Jess Parker, the organization’s family engagement manager, emphasizes that this trend is aligning LGBTQ families with their heterosexual counterparts, indicating a future surge of LGBTQ households.
However, despite these advancements, same-sex couples still face obstacles that heterosexual couples may not encounter. “There are numerous professionals who lack the understanding or language to support our families effectively,” says Parker. This gap in understanding can create challenges when interacting with various institutions. Even in states without explicit legal discrimination, some agencies retain the discretion to determine which families are ‘appropriate,’ creating additional hurdles for same-sex couples.
Below is a comprehensive guide to LGBTQ adoption, covering same-sex adoption laws, rights, the overall process, and expert advice for navigating the journey.
LGBTQ Adoption Rights in the U.S.
As of 2016, LGBTQ couples have been legally permitted to adopt jointly across all 50 states. However, the adoption experience can vary significantly from one state to another. According to Family Equality, 27 states have enacted laws that prohibit discrimination in adoption based on sexual orientation and gender identity. In contrast, 19 states lack explicit protections, and 11 states allow child welfare agencies to refuse services to families, including LGBTQ couples, if it contradicts their religious beliefs. This contentious issue is currently under scrutiny in the U.S. Supreme Court case, Fulton v. the City of Philadelphia.
Legal parentage in same-sex adoptions can also be complicated, as it is determined on a state-by-state basis. This inconsistency may affect your family if you relocate in the future.
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To Summarize:
LGBTQ adoption has become more attainable since the legalization of same-sex marriage, but challenges remain. Understanding your rights and the adoption process is crucial. With resources and community support available, LGBTQ couples can navigate the adoption landscape more effectively, ensuring they are well-equipped to build their families.