So, you’ve successfully had a child before, but now you’re finding it tough to conceive again? You’re not alone. This situation is known as secondary infertility, and it’s more common than many people realize. In fact, it’s estimated that nearly half of the over 7 million individuals dealing with infertility are facing this issue.
What Is Secondary Infertility?
Secondary infertility refers to the inability to get pregnant after previously having one or more children without the help of fertility treatments or medications. It’s a frustrating predicament, especially for those who thought their first experience would be the norm.
Why Might This Happen?
The reasons behind secondary infertility can vary. Age is often a key factor; as you grow older, both egg and sperm quality may decline, making conception harder. If you had a child in your twenties but are now several years older, you might be surprised to find that your body isn’t cooperating as it once did. Lifestyle changes can also play a role—weight gain, smoking, new medications, or health issues that arose since your last pregnancy can all affect your fertility. Additionally, any complications from your previous pregnancy might have lingering impacts.
Who Should You Talk To?
If you suspect you’re dealing with secondary infertility, your first step should be a chat with your OB/GYN. Both partners should undergo fertility testing since the issue could originate from either side. If you’re under 35 and have been trying for over a year, it’s a good idea to consult a fertility specialist. For women aged 35-40, if you’ve been trying for six months with no success, it’s time to seek help. And for those over 40, don’t hesitate to reach out as soon as you notice potential issues.
Unique Challenges of Secondary Infertility
While the path to diagnosing and treating secondary infertility often looks similar to that of primary infertility, it comes with its own emotional hurdles. Friends and family might unintentionally minimize your struggles because you already have a child, leading to feelings of isolation. The emotional fallout can include grief, anger, guilt, and jealousy, and you might also worry about how your existing child is processing your challenges.
Finding a supportive community can be invaluable. Sharing experiences with others who understand can help lighten the emotional load. If you’re looking for a safe space, consider joining a support group where you can connect with others in similar situations.
If you think you might be experiencing secondary infertility or any related issues, it’s worth reaching out for support. You can find more information about the health benefits of pregnancy and motherhood in our other blog post. For men, checking out fertility boosters can also be helpful. If you’re interested in fertility treatments, March of Dimes offers excellent resources to guide you through the process of considering options for conception.
Summary
Secondary infertility can be a challenging journey, especially for those who have successfully conceived before. Factors like age, lifestyle changes, and previous pregnancy complications can all play a role. If you’re suspecting issues with conception, speaking to a healthcare professional is the first step. Remember, you’re not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you navigate this difficult experience.