This week, we’re excited to introduce you to Emily, who has bravely shared her IVF experiences online to support others on similar paths. The team at OVUM has been following her journey, and we truly admire her candidness in helping those navigating the challenges of trying to bring a little one home. So, let’s dive in!
For those who might be hearing about your journey for the first time, can you share a bit about your experience with trying to conceive so far?
Our journey began in 2019, about six months after we tied the knot. After stopping the birth control pill, it took almost a year for my cycle to return. By early 2020, I visited my doctor, who started running tests to figure out what was going on. I underwent numerous blood tests, ultrasounds, and doctor visits; soon, it became our new normal. The waiting list for gynaecology on the NHS was extensive, so I reached out to my private health insurance and managed to get a scan the following week. The private consultant diagnosed me with PCOS and referred us for IVF through the NHS.
The pandemic led to various delays, and by 2021, we finally started our first round of IVF. Since then, we’ve gone through six cycles: including two egg collections and five embryo transfers, which sadly resulted in a miscarriage last summer. Right now, we’re waiting to see if our fifth transfer has been successful!
What are three things you wish people who haven’t experienced infertility could understand better?
- Sometimes, you don’t want to be labeled as the “infertile” friend—the one everyone feels pity for.
- Just relaxing isn’t the solution.
- Infertility alters your view of the world, and while it’s hard to admit, it does change you.
For those just starting their trying-to-conceive journey, do you have any advice?
Being open about our experiences has really helped; many people go through this struggle, and it shouldn’t be a taboo subject! Also, take things one step at a time—otherwise, it can feel totally overwhelming.
Lifestyle changes are common for improving fertility. What changes have you made?
We’ve always tried not to let infertility dominate our lives. There are countless dos and don’ts, but you have to do what feels right for you. Personally, I take my vitamins daily and have cut back on alcohol; I only drink occasionally now, compared to my previous Friday night tradition of cocktail-making in my pajamas!
Infertility touches nearly every part of your life. What practical things have helped you along your journey?
Keep living your life! Book trips, make plans, and pursue what brings you joy. It’s easy to think, “What stage will we be in then?” or “Will we even be able to do that?” The journey is difficult enough without making it harder.
Finding the right clinic can be challenging. How did you choose yours?
We ended up with a local clinic since our first cycle was funded by the NHS. We are fortunate that it’s only about 15 minutes from home, which is a huge help for all the appointments. When we decided to self-fund, we stuck with the same clinic because of its proximity and their familiarity with my history. Many clinics offer open evenings and Q&A sessions, which can really help you find the right fit.
Support is key on this journey, and you’re clearly a source of encouragement for many on your Instagram account. Are there other accounts you’ve found helpful?
I was initially nervous about starting my account, unsure if it was the right choice. But connecting with others on similar journeys has been incredibly rewarding. I’ve met amazing people, and a couple of my favorites are @Goodlucknic and @IVF_Got_this_uk.
Quick Fire Round
What always brings a smile to your face?
Warm summer evenings in the garden.
Last song you listened to on Spotify?
Shania Twain – “That Don’t Impress Me Much.”
IG or TikTok? And where can we find you?
Only on IG, my handle is @IVF_Got_this_.
In summary
Emily’s journey through infertility has not only transformed her perspective but has also provided valuable insights and hope to others facing similar challenges. For more information on related topics, you might find this article on safe administration of medicine to infants and toddlers helpful, and for those considering at-home insemination kits, check out this resource. Additionally, the March of Dimes offers excellent support on pregnancy and home insemination.