After struggling with vaginismus for a couple of years, starting a family was always a dream for us. When my partner and I finally felt ready to conceive, we were anxious about my ability to get pregnant naturally given the pain I experienced during intercourse. We looked into various treatments but found them to be lengthy and uncomfortable. That’s when I stumbled upon the idea of at-home insemination, and my curiosity led us to give it a shot!
Excitement filled the air when our first couple of kits arrived, though I’ll admit my partner, Alex, had his doubts. We decided to take a mini-vacation to try out the kits in a more relaxed setting. Unfortunately, my ovulation tests showed no signs of ovulation that month; it tends to happen when I fly. Despite that, we used the kit on the days I should have ovulated, but, as expected, it didn’t work out.
Determined not to give up, I ordered seven more kits for the following month to maximize our chances during my fertile days. We continued using ovulation tests, and when I finally got the smiley face indicating ovulation, we were ready! With everything in place, I carefully followed the instructions. However, I was hesitant to get my hopes up after last month’s disappointment.
Weeks passed, and I started sensing a change in my body. On a whim, I took a pregnancy test one evening—and to my astonishment, there it was: two lines indicating we were expecting! I rushed to tell Alex, and our joy was immeasurable. At our first ultrasound, the news got even better—we were having twins! Now, as we approach the third trimester, we can hardly wait to welcome our twin girls.
For us, this journey has been a blessing. Coming from a South Asian background, discussing intimacy can be challenging, so this approach allowed us to tackle our unique situation discreetly without resorting to costly fertility treatments that, in my case, weren’t necessary. If you’re navigating similar challenges, I encourage you to explore your options. You can find helpful resources on pregnancy and home insemination at Resolve and check out Make A Mom for more information on at-home solutions. And if you ever find yourself overwhelmed with toddler tantrums, take a look at our other post about managing those tricky moments here.
In summary, our experience shows that with determination and the right tools, overcoming challenges like vaginismus is possible. We’re overjoyed about our upcoming additions to the family and grateful for the journey that brought us here.