Becoming a mom is a monumental shift in your life. The initial months can be particularly lonely, but having friends and a solid support system is crucial during this time. Since my daughter was born in March, I’ve discovered that my friendships have evolved, and I now have a group of friends who serve different roles in my journey through motherhood. After chatting with some fellow moms, it seems we all share six unique types of friends—some quirky and some supportive. Some relationships may fade, while others deepen in ways you never expected.
1. The Clueless Friend
This friend is blissfully unaware of what life looks like after having a baby. She still invites you to brunch and asks if you can join her for a night out, even just a week after you’ve given birth. While her comments may come off as tone-deaf (like when she makes remarks about yoga pants while you haven’t worn anything else for months), take a breath. She means well. When you need a break from the baby, she’ll be the first one you call for a fun night out (and maybe a few cocktails).
2. The Disappearing Act
This friend was once a close companion, but she seems to have vanished since you became a mom. Whether she’s grappling with her own struggles or simply isn’t interested in the mom life, it’s important to give her some space. She might just need time to adjust or a shared experience to reconnect. Be patient; you never know when she might come around again.
3. The Baby-Obsessed Buddy
This friend might not have been particularly close before, but since your baby arrived, she can’t get enough of your little one. She’s always asking for updates, photos, and stories, and while it may feel like she’s only interested in your baby, having someone excited about your child can be a relief. If you need a few hours to yourself, she’s more than willing to babysit, as she’s your child’s biggest fan.
4. The New Mom Sidekick
This friend is navigating motherhood alongside you. You may have experienced pregnancy together, and she understands the challenges you face. She’s up late with you, sharing the late-night struggles and joys of motherhood. This friendship is built on shared experiences, and it’s invaluable during those overwhelming moments.
5. The “It’s About Time!” Friend
This friend has been a mom for a while and has been eagerly waiting for you to join her in the motherhood club. Her gifts are thoughtful and often include things you didn’t even know you needed. She’s excited about playdates and family adventures. Her wisdom is a treasure you shouldn’t overlook. Even if she’s past the sleepless nights, she knows exactly what you’re going through.
6. The Kindred Spirit
This friend may not have children of her own, but she’s been there through it all. She celebrates your milestones, comforts you during tough times, and respects your journey without pressure. Your child will likely see her as an ‘Aunt,’ even if there’s no blood relation. She’s your number one supporter in this new chapter of life.
In summary, your friendships will take on new dimensions as you navigate motherhood. Some will fade, while others will bloom, creating a rich tapestry of support and love around you.