Navigating the Communication Gap
You might have thought that the days of deciphering the cryptic language of your little ones were behind you. But hold onto your hats—welcome to the tumultuous world of adolescence! Here’s a fresh look at the everyday exchanges between parents and their teenage kids.
What I say: We need to leave in five minutes, or we’ll be late.
What my teens hear: Now is the perfect time to change outfits multiple times, scatter clothes everywhere, and then spend an eternity in the bathroom.
What I say: Please take a shower.
What my teens hear: If you lock the door and turn on the water, it’s a great excuse to zone out for 45 minutes. Washing? Totally optional.
What I say: I’m making a shopping list. What do you want for dinner next week?
What my teens hear: Food is coming! As soon as I bring home a week’s worth of groceries, you’re welcome to devour it all in one night. I can always restock!
What I say: It’s time to wake up and get ready for school.
What my teens hear: Just grunt a couple of times so I know you’re alive; I’ll be back seven more times before the bus arrives. I have nothing else on my agenda this morning.
What I say: Clean your room.
What my teens hear: Just shove everything under the bed or behind the dresser, and maybe spray some air freshener to mask the chaos. The vacuum can stay on in the corner, even if it’s not moving.
What I say: I need you to lower the volume on the TV, please.
What my teens hear: Blah blah blah. Just lower it for a second and then crank it back up to maximum. Only old folks keep the volume down.
What I say: I don’t think that show is appropriate for you.
What my teens hear: Watch it whenever I’m not around. I just want to say I warned you so I can complain later.
What I say: Did you fill the car with gas last night?
What my teens hear: Did you throw in just enough gas to say yes?
What I say: Can you stop arguing for a moment?
What my teens hear: Can you make it louder and more chaotic for a bit longer? That would be fantastic.
What I say: I need help cleaning up in here.
What my teens hear: You’re looking for a reason to vanish somewhere else!
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Summary
Communicating with teens can be challenging as what parents say often gets interpreted very differently. Recognizing this gap can help parents navigate conversations better and build stronger relationships with their adolescents.