Being a stay-at-home mom is not what I imagined it would be, and I find myself longing to return to the workforce. It’s not that I don’t adore my one-year-old; it’s simply that I crave a break. Over the past six months, I’ve taken a part-time job to spend more time with my little whirlwind, yet I still feel the urge to break free… to be liberated… even if it means being chained to a desk again for eight hours. I would much rather deal with workplace challenges than manage my son’s daring attempts to climb furniture like he’s Spiderman, obsess over the nutritional value of his meals, or endure another episode of the Wiggles.
I’m at my wit’s end with this role. The thought of being a stay-at-home mom fills me with dread. Perhaps that’s why I face the prospect of single motherhood with such courage. The idea of returning to the office excites me, offering me the independence to take charge of my life again—giving me the strength to say goodbye to my inconsiderate husband if necessary. I want the financial freedom to tell him, “See you later, Big Guy,” if he becomes too intolerable. The endless drone of sports commentary late into the night and the pungent scent of roast beef and Swiss cheese wafting from the fridge are driving me crazy. I can’t stand the involuntary gag reflex I get every time he walks through the door to a mess of baby toys and my hair plastered to my forehead.
I recognize that I’ve turned into a rather harsh version of myself over the last two years, and I believe I can trace it back to my radical side being suffocated by societal expectations of love and sacrifice. I wanted to emulate my Italian grandmother, who dedicated herself to raising her children, believing that sacrificing my ambitions would ultimately strengthen my relationships. However, I’ve realized that I don’t need to compromise my identity for the men in my life. My grandmother managed to keep her dreams alive while nurturing her family.
My son will thrive as I re-enter the workforce. He’s a social child, and despite my struggles with the demands of motherhood, we have a solid bond. We genuinely enjoy each other’s company. As for my husband, it’s not all animosity. We actually get along quite well when kids aren’t in the picture. Perhaps that’s part of the problem, and if we were to separate, I’m sure he’d find someone younger to overlook my quirks—like my daily insistence on eating Grape Nuts for breakfast, my preference for solitude and a good book over socializing, and my tendency to micromanage.
I’m not a domestic diva. I’m not the ideal partner. And that’s okay.
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In summary, being a stay-at-home mom isn’t for everyone, and recognizing your own desires and needs is crucial. It’s essential to find a balance that works for you and your family, allowing you to pursue your passions while still being present for your children.