As my children grow, I’ve come to realize that even the most benign remarks can provoke a strong reaction from them. A simple compliment or casual inquiry can lead to dramatic eye-rolls or hasty exits. In an effort to help other parents navigate this tricky terrain, I’ve compiled a list of the comments that seem to hit a nerve with tweens and teenagers. Here are some of the phrases you should think twice about using:
- You look great.
- Go greet your friends.
- Are you upset?
- Can I join you?
- Hello.
- What’s bothering you?
- Need a hand?
- I love your hairstyle.
- Are you really wearing that?
- How was your day at school?
- You can’t be hungry again.
- Are you feeling tired?
- Are you OK?
- You’ll get it eventually.
- Why are you acting like that?
- Time to wake up.
- Time for bed.
- You seem so mature!
- That’s neat.
- How’s everything?
- Did you finish your homework?
- I did the same thing when I was young.
- Where’s your jacket?
- Swag.
- I understand what you mean.
- Where are you at?
- Where have you been?
- Where are you headed?
- Aren’t you going to introduce me to your friend?
- Why didn’t you mention this to me?
- Hi there.
- Just shake it off.
- I can see your point.
- Message me when you arrive.
- Who’s that person?
- Why is that?
- That’s fantastic.
- How’s it going?
- Smile a little!
- Hand over your phone.
This list serves as a guideline for avoiding potential landmines in conversations with your teens.
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In summary, communication with your teen requires finesse and awareness of how certain phrases can be interpreted. Being mindful of your language can lead to more positive interactions.